You wake up. You stumble to the bathroom to brush your teeth. You look in the mirror and…
A huge, juicy pimple. Front and center of your forehead. Oh, and one popped up in the middle of your nose, too.
You’re mortified. Annoyed. And, well, pissed off.
So what do you do? You pick and prod at those nasty bumps until…
You’re bleeding! Now they look 10x worse and you have to get your ass to work in 30 minutes.
You do your best to cover it up with foundation and blush. But it’s pretty obvious you spent the morning playing dermatologist.
The rest of your day is centered on how terrible your skin looks. You’re self-conscious and embarrassed. You can’t wait to get home, lock yourself in your room and binge watch Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (if Rebecca Bunch can’t make you feel better about yourself, I don’t know who can).
Even though the sun was shining, you made it to work and back without an accident and you’re mom called you just to chat…you gave all your energy to your breakout. You spent an entire day of your life ruminating about a small patch of skin the size of a pea.
This has been me…SO. MANY. TIMES.
So in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I want to remind you (and myself) of something important:
The opposite of gratitude is self-absorption.
Gratitude leads to happiness. Self-absorption leads to suffering.
Whenever I’m having a bad day, I realize it’s because I’ve forgotten to be thankful. Instead of counting my blessings? I’m listing off the things I wish I could change. In a nutshell? I’m focused on me, me, me.
Look. Life is full of unpleasant surprises. But you have the power to choose your thoughts, every moment.
If you find yourself unhappy with your situation, make a list of what you’re thankful for. Be grateful for the crappy stuff, too. Somehow it’s getting you closer to what you want and need.
Your self-absorption is taking away from all the good things in your life. It’s like looking at a single puzzle piece and missing the big, beautiful picture.
It’s completely okay to be frustrated and upset. Feel how you feel. But be disciplined about tuning back into the frequency of gratitude as quickly as possible.
Open your eyes and look around. What are you thankful for? Focus on that today and always. Remember: When you count your blessings, they multiply.
PS. Need a new show to watch this long weekend? Watch Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. Season 1 is on Netflix and Season 2 is on the CW website. It’s seriously the best.