The other week I got really annoyed with one of my friends for flaking out on me last minute. It bothered me that I had turned down other opportunities to hang out with her. Mostly, I felt like she didn’t value my time. I was disappointed because we didn’t get to spend time together.
But then I realized…
She was being a mirror for me.
Because a couple weeks later one of my dearest friends sat me down and told me she felt frustrated that I had been canceling and changing plans. She told me I needed to be mindful of not overextending myself. It was hurtful to those who were left with nothing to do when I bailed out.
The reason I had been so impacted by my first friend is because I was doing the exact same thing to people I cared about.
You attract people and situations that show you what you need to work on in yourself.
Think about the things that make you emotional. Are you bothered by people who interrupt? Do negative people irritate the hell out of you? When people are late, do you feel your blood boil?
Look within. Are you actually the one doing the things that piss you off?
Your life is a gigantic, moving mirror. Pay attention. Examine the people, places and things that disturb you. Take back control of your circumstances by learning from your reactions.
Here are some examples I’ve seen at work in my own life:
- When I get annoyed with negative people, I realize I’m being negative about something or someone.
- When I feel jealous, I realize I need to work on and nurture the thing I’m jealous of.
- When I catch myself judging others, I realize I’ve been a little too hard on myself.
You’re constantly being given feedback from the people and situations that come up. This is an amazing gift. Instead of being a victim to bad situations? Use them as opportunities to better yourself.
Here’s to accountability and growth!
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