I always have a secret stash of dark chocolate in my drawer at work. If I’m feeling nice, I’ll offer a piece to my cube mates. One day, a new employee overheard me asking my coworker if he wanted some. I knew we’d be fast friends when she stopped by my desk to get in on the goodness.
A few weeks later she and I went for a walk around our building. It was the first time we really got to know each other. At one point, our conversation felt like a serious flashback. She confessed she was feeling a little uncertain about her new job and the passion (or lack thereof) behind it. I felt like I was talking to a past version of myself.
I’ve spent (and still spend) a lot of time thinking about whether or not I’m taking the right action in my life. I wonder if I’m getting too comfortable in my corporate job. I question my dreams of full-time self-employment. I compare my life to people who seem to have it all figured out. I wonder what all my efforts will add up to, in the end.
When this woman was talking to me about her situation, I caught myself giving her advice I wish I’d heard when I first started my big girl job…
I suggested paying attention to what and who is showing up in her life. Sometimes the things you resent are actually the most valuable. Even though I’m not madly in love with my day job, the company I work for is constantly showing up for me. It provides great benefits, work/life balance and I have an extremely supportive manager and caring colleagues. It gives me the means to explore and pursue my other interests and passions while feeling financially secure.
Who and what is showing in your life?
You have to trust every mediocre job, demanding customer or clueless supervisor is a stepping stone leading you in the direction of your dreams. Sometimes you simply have to reframe the way you look at it. Instead of focusing on what you don’t like, ask yourself how that person, place or situation is adding value to your life.
How is the thing that keeps you up at night actually helping you?
Life has a funny way of giving you opportunities to help people navigate through challenges you’ve already experienced. When people say, “It happens for a reason,” I think this is what they’re talking about. Maybe that icky breakup or micro manager is preparing you for a conversation like the one I just had…
Thing is, you don’t know. But you do know how to get quiet and reflect. Pay attention to how you’ve been thinking, feeling or talking about your current situation. Dig deep for the blessing in disguise. Give thanks for the good, the bad and the ugly. Consider that what you’re complaining about is actually complimenting you. This attitude helps you attract more of what you want.
Just remember: Sometimes what shows up isn’t what you want, but it’s exactly what you need…
Keep your eyes, ears and heart open. Trust your path. And all is coming…
You got this,