Hello Sweet Thang!
My friend Emily likes to say, “Expectation is the worst word in the English language.”
I’m pretty sure it was a line passed down from her beloved grandmother.
As I sit at a Starbucks, just outside San Francisco, her words come to mind.
Travel and expectations go hand in hand. Often times you go into a trip with a clearly painted picture of how you think things should go. You know? Dates, times, outfits and meals carefully planned out. You have places you want to go and people you want to see. Your agenda is filled with new and exciting activities carefully scheduled to fit into your allotted time frame.
For this vacation? I decided to leave my expectations at home. I knew I would be in good hands with my dear friend, Kristin, who grew up in the area. I made the conscious choice to be completely open to anything and everything. No plan. No schedule.
And of course we had an amaaaaazing time (we always do)! In short? We ate delicious food, went for a beautiful hike, enjoyed a couple fun nights out on the town and attended the infamous San Fran Pride Festival.
But that’s not the point of this message…
Here’s my reminder for today: Sometimes when you have a strict agenda, you miss out on the spontaneity of life. And when you get too attached to expectations? You set yourself up for disappointment.
This goes for travel plans and for life plans.
Look. I get it. You think you should be making a specific amount of money by the time you reach a certain age. You think you should have a ring on your finger after you’ve been with someone for a set amount of time. You want to lose 10 pounds in 6 weeks.
You want things to work out on your watch.
Thing is, you get to decide what you want and why you want it.
You can’t always control how or when it comes…
“You get what you want when you least expect it.”
You’ve heard that one before. Haven’t you?
I’m starting to believe it really is true. Mostly because I’ve seen it in my life so many times…
I fully expected to work at yoga studios my entire life because it’s what I thought I wanted to do.
But instead? I got a corporate sales job right out of college that has helped me grow into a successful business woman.
I lost my first client this past winter. I was really bummed about the situation. I assumed it would open up some much needed time in my schedule.
But instead? I signed 2 new (amazing) clients the following week.
Back in February, I was fresh out of a 4-year relationship. I fully expected to stay single for the next 2-4 years.
But instead? I fell in love with one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met a few months later.
In all of the scenarios I just listed, the outcome was actually better than the one I expected. Yes, there were growing pains. But ultimately? I got what I wanted at the perfect time.
Looking back, I wish someone would’ve told me to let go and detach from the result. It would’ve saved me a lot of fear and anxiety.
Remember: Rigid expectations set you up for disappointment. Know your “what” and your “why” and everything else will fall perfectly into place.
Want to get better at releasing expectations? TAKE ACTION!
Write down 3 things you want.
Next to each wish, write down why you want it.
Now rip up the piece of paper and throw it away.
This is a symbol of letting it go and allowing the Universe to work on your behalf.
…something even more magical is on the way ;).
PS. Have you heard of YOD? I’m obsessed with this workout right now. You gotta check it out 😉 (I just redid their website, too!).
PSS. Kristin & me at Pride! 🙂